Siúil a Rúin
when the colors fade
- Joined
- Apr 23, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- ISFP
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- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
My problem is I generally have a despairing backdrop where i can question if everything is unknowable to me. I do try to stay in mental limbo on a lot of topics, including serious ones, so there are only a minorities of notions that I have certitude about. Sometimes I will have a narrower range of uncertainty that correlates with my knowledge. Although there have likely been occasions when I overestimated what I know, but I try not to do that. I feel anxiety about some things I don't know well enough - medical and technological come to mind. Edit: I think my strategy is to give myself permission to be in limbo and not know with certitude - to find peace in that state.
- So do you have any personal strategies to escape the valley if despair, and get over being a midwit? Do you just do what a dumber you would do? I have been confidently stubborn and wrong plenty of times using that strategy myself.
I use a lot of avoidance. If they present an emotional context, I will sometimes, at least recently, get rigorously non-emotional. I learned that from living with INTPs for 20 years. What annoys me the most is when strangers start telling me who I am, what my motivations, thoughts, and feelings are. They verifiably have no idea what they are talking about. I recently responded to that with "who I am and what I feel is irrelevant". It deflects the conversation going there and has an intentionally brutal and unexpected quality. Sometimes I will use a diplomacy tactic where I reference one comment and say we agree, but then state my position. I also sometimes feel an inward despair that humanity is doomed, and feel extreme frustration and almost panic, so withdraw at that point.
- How do you deal with people who have no idea what they are talking about trying to force opinions on you?
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