Thalassa
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The man who is not really my grandfather - the man who I sometimes referred to as "my Argentine Grandpa" who I actually did editing and typing for, and is the real grandfather of my lover, is dying.
It's all kind of horrible and weird, because I got into a fight with ESFJ mama bear around the holidays, and I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire, but she's the owner of the house where grandpa has been voted to spend his final days. It really is awful because I'm good with every other family member, except her borderline with narcissistic features ass, BUT trying to maneuver around her during this terrible time would be damaging to the family not just to her. So it's unethical for me to attempt to visit Argentine Grandpa's bedside.
I've cried over it repeatedly, but I'm not in despair. The strange part is I always thought his grandfather's death would bring my lover and I closer together, it was just a fleeting vision I had on occasion, certainly not a wish or a prayer, or even logical, just like an intuition. Weirdly after a period of not talking, the very night he found out his grandfather was dying he started contacting me. Me of all people, I was the first person he turned to, but I had my reservations. I finally saw him tonight, and I at least am going to send my love to Argentine Grandpa through him, because he has the night shift of keeping vigil at his grandfather's bedside, so will have an opportunity away from the prying ears of his overbearing ESFJ mother from hell.
Honestly I would be nice to her if she'd actually act her age - early 50s - and allow me one last visit, I'd regain a lot of respect back for her. How terrible to use your father's death to control and manipulate people. It should be a time of togetherness.
Oh well. So there's that.
It's all kind of horrible and weird, because I got into a fight with ESFJ mama bear around the holidays, and I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire, but she's the owner of the house where grandpa has been voted to spend his final days. It really is awful because I'm good with every other family member, except her borderline with narcissistic features ass, BUT trying to maneuver around her during this terrible time would be damaging to the family not just to her. So it's unethical for me to attempt to visit Argentine Grandpa's bedside.
I've cried over it repeatedly, but I'm not in despair. The strange part is I always thought his grandfather's death would bring my lover and I closer together, it was just a fleeting vision I had on occasion, certainly not a wish or a prayer, or even logical, just like an intuition. Weirdly after a period of not talking, the very night he found out his grandfather was dying he started contacting me. Me of all people, I was the first person he turned to, but I had my reservations. I finally saw him tonight, and I at least am going to send my love to Argentine Grandpa through him, because he has the night shift of keeping vigil at his grandfather's bedside, so will have an opportunity away from the prying ears of his overbearing ESFJ mother from hell.
Honestly I would be nice to her if she'd actually act her age - early 50s - and allow me one last visit, I'd regain a lot of respect back for her. How terrible to use your father's death to control and manipulate people. It should be a time of togetherness.
Oh well. So there's that.
