Happened several times now? Would you mind to elaborate further?
Would be a hassle to pore through every big paragraph that you've posted, but another example is this one:
No, I understand! [reassurance #1] It's not something you absolutely have to see [reassurance #2]. I just thought it might help you [explaining yourself, another form of reassuring- #3] in case you are one of those people who can type based off of tone of the voice or anything like that. If it doesn't add anything for you, we don't have to do it! [reassurance #4, complete with the upbeat upturn of phrase to make absolutely sure you are being as friendly as possible and that 'really, there's no need for you to worry about anything, it's all good']
So many, in one paragraph. Incredible. For context, if it were me, I would have said something like,
"Alright."
I hope this doesn't make you self-conscious. It's very helpful for those who need it. But me, personally, I don't, so you can relax.
I think in both ways, though in this case I meant in the MBTI sense. Though, a part of it, without a doubt, is also the very wrong way sensors are portrayed as in the mbti community. I find it hard to really explain why in retrospect, but it feels like one of the reasons might have been that in my mind I usually come to a conclusion first and don't really think about where it is coming from. For example seeing a friend of mine in a relationship and knowing "this is not going to work" without really analysing it beforehand. Or only realising I did certain observations about the real world and came to conclusions after being asked. It's never been on the forefront of my thoughts but the conclusion I am coming to instantly sound like they have been in my head for a pretty long time. But I guess the main reason was probably me being biased because of 16 personalities and identifying as INFP and having strong Ne explained enough about my problem solving processes that I was satisfied.
Yeah, that's the mundane sense of intuition right there, not the MBTI-sense. What might help is to understand
why you think it will not work- it will show you
how you think (which is cognition- which is what MBTI is) rather than
what you think (which is just data).
Have you ever watched Star Trek? Kirk is quite clearly ESTP, but he works based off 'hunches' or what many might even call 'intuition'. There's no obvious way of seeing that what he does would work out, but it does anyway (albeit in an extremely brash, risky manner). That doesn't mean he's IN-J, or EN-P. Rest assured that 'having gut feelings' (or intuition, or whatever you want to call it) is quite universal, 'even', in high-S, low N folks.
That being said, I noticed that your first example of your 'gut feelings' is about relationships. I'm high N low S (dichotomy wise, and people joke I have no S sometimes) and I ... would be blind where you were. People tend to be able to observe and notice things better if it relates to things they are interested/involved in. That's just human.
It baffles me how many of the universal traits of humans, but especially the 'cooler' ones, get shoved all into the N camp- and especially the INXJs. Crazy.
Difficult question. I think I can say for certain that not doing anything and just fooling around would be out of the question. I think if I had unlimited money and time, I would do the things I always dreamed of but couldn't because the jobs are too insecure. I would probably do acting training to become a voice actor, go all out on my current hobbies (get better equipment, hire people to draw stuff for me, compose background music, animate music videos), get singing lessons etc etc. Having a life worth living, full of things I am excited about would be something I would look forward to. I don't think I would ever be as organised as the stereotypical Si dom, but I would fill my days with doing the things I love while also leaving enough space for family, friends and just relaxation.
Types aside, it looks like you do have direction, but have difficulties in keeping focused to achieve it. It's a bit reminiscent of -P in that you are focused on the process of things (that you enjoy the process, not the end result, but that itself is not entirely telling- some people would indeed just want to enjoy life and not endlessly chase goals, even Js, though stereotype says otherwise), but also a bit reminiscent of -S in that a lot of what you want to do is quite experiental/'concrete' in nature. Your idea of a 'life worth living' is one that is quite immersed in S-like experiences- being in touch with the concrete, the 'real', the world. The fact you are not organised enough for it is a red herring, especially if the reason for it is tied to things you have no control over (anxiety/whatever you are going to the therapist for, etc).
Of course, this is not concretely 100% N or S. Surely there are high Ns out there who are similar, but again- it's a spectrum, a sliding scale, and this adds another point towards S.
And what causes me to burn out is a question I tried to figure out in therapy for YEARS and I never came to a solution. If I had to list potential options / parts of the issue:
- If I try to get into a routine, I plan it out too much so if something happens and I can't do what I planned anymore I am irritated
I almost want to laugh. I am not surprised. I suspected this might be a part of it. Rest assured,
even Js would burn out at this. It's not a new story at all of someone who likes planning, overplans to the point they suck all the joy out of everything for themselves. It's not an uncommon J pitfall by the way- of essentially planning
too much, being so inflexible that change makes it all crumble. That's
classic J over P right there, if anything. Not all Ps do this, but very high Ps tend to be more open-ended and forgiving of deviations, generally. I wish that were not true, but I've been blindsided, secondhand irritated by many a P for whom deviations are 'no big deal'. That being said-
J or not, it is clear that you are not 'planning' things in a way that is sustainable or even healthy for yourself. The information of who you are is concealed, distorted by this. Once you are able to find something that works well for yourself, once your 'healthier self' shines through, then we could have an easier time typing her. But I hope that this line of questioning shows you how important it is to figure out the underlying cognition behind something- the
'how', not just the
'what'. Your data (the
"what") was superficially P-
"I can't hold down plans."- but the cognition behind the
why is strongly, even hilariously J.
- In a similar way: If I did something every single day but can't do it for a couple days because of circumstances I find it hard to get into it again. I am out of the habit.
The ISFJ friend I mentioned is similar. Interestingly, she needs therapy as well- she's mildly autistic, among other things. If she gets blindsided/if her
'train of thought'/train of work' gets interrupted, she has a hard time restarting it. The point is, she
wants to, and wants to maintain it. Her preferences were J, but extenuating circumstances cause her to be a bit 'chaotic'.
- I am bored if I keep doing the things I have to force myself to do on a regular basis. At first the "my life gets objectively better" can keep me motivated but after awhile, when this hype stops, it's a feeling of "why should I bother anymore". Also the thought of "I have to do this every single day now until I die" is really demotivating. It's the reason why I got depressed in university. I was really productive and getting straight A's for the first semester but then realized I have to keep up the same level for the next 5 years... which is where I spiraled down
This much is beyond MBTI. As mentioned above, even Js can burn out in this manner- anyone, really. Anyone who feels like they are doing something meaningless or wasting their time would burn out eventually. This could be an issue of you not figuring out what you want to commit to yet, or perhaps something else- who knows. It will be hard to type the person when the person is buried under stress and behaving in ways they otherwise wouldn't have. Something to bring up with your therapist, if you haven't yet.
- Getting distracted by little things, mostly internet- or interest related. I have no problems with unhealthy routines and I boot up my pc every morning. But as soon as I get sucked into the internet and things that excite me hours pass without me noticing and whoops: I wasted another day. - Me changing my habits to not go online instantly ended up in me not caring anymore or self-sabotaging
This one is just human. Escapism tends to happen more frequently for people under stress. And think of it like this- escapism is not a cure, it's a band-aid. Rip it off without another band-aid to take its place, and you will bleed, and perhaps even get infected. This applies to everyone- not just any specific type. An analogy; drug addicts. Drugs are bad, so why do we not make them go cold turkey? Because it will give their system a shock. They could actually end up dying. There was a need that the drug fulfilled, and for it to stop suddenly, the body can freak out. If you cut yourself cold turkey, it can be... bad, to say the least.
This is not telling of MBTI, this just tells me you were stressed and lacked proper outlets, something that is universal. People need things to give them a reason to have hope, to go on. It's not just your body that needs feeding, but the mind and emotions as well. Have it starve, and it will behave unpredictably, stop working properly. Not type related, but read this: [
link] Of course, ideally, you get better outlets, but when people have no choice, they take what they can get. Starving people would eat even rotten food.
Before knowing why this happens at all, I would hesitate using this information to type someone- typing someone's stress patterns
can help yield light on their type, but everyone copes differently, even if they have the same MBTI. Especially if it gets to the point of pathology- that's just not MBTI anymore. Some I-TJs become workaholics, some become abusive arses who drink their money away. Can't type that.
Another analogy; everyone screams when they break their bones. They may flail, or go blank, get very angry, get very sad, but point is: they are behaving out of character. Sure, a person who was angry by nature would perhaps be more likely to get angry than cry, say, but even then there's no guarantee. It would not make sense to make guesses on who they are based off of that, and is why I hesitate to type someone when they are mired in ... stress, or things out of their control. Some claim they can, but really- I cannot see how it could make sense.
- I hate doing things because I have do / I don't want to. My family always described me as stubborn in this regard. My aunt even called me "unteachable" because I kept rebelling during piano lessons. Even if I was the one who said "I want to learn how to play the piano" or "I want to study this subject" - the fact that there is a person who is telling me what to do makes me less excited about it. At the same time, at this point it's hard to make me do something if I am not forced to. I NEED external pressure to get things done otherwise I will just not care or leave projects unfinished.
This is a point towards P, but again, it is partially extenuating circumstance. Need to know why you end up doing this even if it was something you asked for. Me, personally- I did something similar, but only because I hated the music I was made the play (old classical things... ugh), I hated how I was made to play it, I hated that my teacher dictated which piece I would play / master next. Imagine if someone barged in on your hobbies and told you how to do it- you'd rebel, too. So I would need to know why you ended up having to be forced.
(For what it's worth, once I was able to learn on my own- at my pace, where I wanted, when I wanted, what I wanted- I mastered a high-level piano score in 1 month. Even my ex-teacher was shocked.)
How do you work when it's something you enjoy? How much more organised will you be, if you are not stressed, if you have the resources you need? That will paint a fuller picture of how your cognition works as a whole, not just under duress (when you are forced to do things in ways you don't want to). Granted, there is the argument that Js are responsible enough to do what they had to do without much fuss anyway, but you have listed several things that indicate to me that you are under quite a lot of stress and anxiety, so I wouldn't make any final conclusions based off just this. If you mentally really under are a baseline of burnout (and what you have written
strongly indicates it), that could explain why you do this, not that you are J or P.
Okay... it's been on my mind for a couple days: are you an INFJ by any chance? You give VERY similar vibes to my previous typer in your way of expression and reasoning. The reasons you provided for some values or opinions seemed very Fe-Ti centric, you didn't seem to use Ne-Si on the other hand, very sure about your claims (or seeming to have a set direction of thoughts from the start) and again, the "IXFJ" communication style you talked about that I seem to have looks very similar to yours in a way hahaha. You also barely use personal examples (except for your ISFJ friend in the last post). Kinda funny. What makes me think though is that you are very detail-oriented in your posts and pick out specific sentences you are referring to.
No. Not even Fe. INTJ, though some type me ENTJ (like how your N/S axis is your most undifferentiated one so far, for me, that is the E/I axis- cognitively. I'm no party animal and no one who knows me would call me a social person).
I've been told I have tact. It's something I have made the effort to practice. I had mistyped as INFJ for a while, so while I may not understand fully where you are coming from, your conclusions are not entirely new or shocking.
I can be very detail-oriented when it comes to assignments, aesthetic things (when I am actually putting together a website or am supposed to evaluate a character design) or, as you can see, my speech. But me being detail-oriented is usually without structure, without direction. It's more of a "I am trying out things until they fit". When learning new things I NEED alot of details in order to understand. If I did something similar before I have fun experimenting but in the context of a job it's different. For example I was working as a cashier for a couple months and needed VERY PRECISE instructions on EVERYTHING to a point when my boss was very frustrated with me. "It should be obvious that you are supposed to do it like that, because it only makes sense that way, why do I need to explain this to you?". Thinking about it, it's the reason my mother was often frustrated with me "I don't need to explain to you why the cups are needed to be arranged this way and not another because it is the most efficient and logical way, why do you not get that". Though I would guess this is me being detail-oriented in more of the theoretical / practical realm than in an aesthetic realm. I don't value clothes that much or little changes in the world around me - because they don't really change my thoughts and goals or the way I am going through my day. I would rather pay attention to what a person is saying than what the person looks like. Though if I am sitting something, listening, I can notice my eyes wonder and "analyze" the world around me, looking at the little details. It doesn't really help me in seeing changes when they occur though.
People usually do things that come easier to them, and if your cognition is indeed S, this is another point towards it as well- you work better with 'concrete/S-style data'. Not that Ns can't be artistic, of course. It's another point towards S, but a very small one.
"I don't value clothes that much or little changes in the world around me - because they don't really change my thoughts and goals or the way I am going through my day." - I remember you mentioning this before. If we went based off this 100%, it stereotypically means low S- but it wasn't that you had low S, it's that your S was being used
elsewhere. For what it's worth, the type of data you need seems to be related to a procedural type of thinking I associate with J. If you understand how things go, you can plan things out. If you plan things out, you can have just what you wanted- that
tends to be J.
As for the without structure or direction, trying things till they fit- they seem to be related to creative things, which... Well, that's just how a lot of creativity works. You are being structured where you have to be, and being flexible where you have to be. That much doesn't strongly point to either J or P, at least for me. Everyone's creative process is different- and some may even be 50-50. For myself, I like coding CSS at times, and I like planning out what the end result looks like. But when I draw/paint, I don't.
One thing though. You say you go to the therapist. You needing 'very specific instructions' that 'should be obvious' are signalling a few possibilities to me; either your bosses and your family are all jerks, and/or this is related to why you are needing a therapist and why you are burnt out. It's not certain, but this is a part of a tell-tale sign that someone may have a certain- for eg, cognitive disorder, such as autism or ADHD or the likes of it. Could be mild enough to escape detection, but enough to be 'disruptive' to the point of... Well. Needing 'very specific instructions that should be obvious'. Sometimes, it even results in over-planning to compensate for missing things that 'should be obvious', so that's another sign right there which... It's forming a pattern.
I'm not saying you have it, or have any at all, but this is so specific and is usually a tell that something is wrong. If you haven't brought it up with your therapist, perhaps do so and give your therapist examples.
Yes, yes and yes. My Se is really bad. Which was more of a reason to type as INFP for me honestly. Though on the other hand it bothers me that people keep mixing "regular" mbti with socionics terms. I might just be an ISFJ EII (EII's having terrible Se). As a disclaimer, I have NO IDEA about socionics, like absolutely none, I just know that tests always type me as EII (without it even being a competition in comparison to the scores of other types) and that mbti really borrowed many of the socionics terms.
Socionics is quite different from MBTI, by the way. Their Se is closer to MBTI's Te than Se (not exact, but it's closer to Te than Se). Willpower, forcefulness, and the willingness to push around and shape the world around you. No surprise you scored low Se for socionics, but it doesn't necessarily mean you have low MBTI-Se. Due to the definitions of socionics Se and how it works, even an IS-P (especially an E9 one, I'd imagine) can score rock bottom socionics-Se.
"The individual feels at home among people who are actively doing something and interacting with each other directly (visibly), and is able to organize people, move them around as necessary, and guide them in achieving a specific goal. He or she likes obedience and even subservience in others, since it allows him to "make things happen" more effectively. He is keenly aware of territorial conflicts and confrontational behavior occurring around him. He very quickly becomes confrontational when others try to make him move or get him to do something in an aggressive or confrontational way. He quickly recognizes when people are trying to get each other to do something or are trying to organize him for some purpose. He also spontaneously uses aggression to achieve his own goals."
Not necessarily INFP, though. And while I do not know how much of 'Se' really is situational awareness (I know Ns with good situational awareness), ISFJ also has no Se. And, if the pattern holds true, if you do have something like ADHD or the like, you could have all the Se in the world and still not notice things and 'need very specific instructions that should be obvious'- it's obvious that even in circumstances where you
want to be alert, you have a hard time doing so. Hard to tell if this is truly low Se or extenuating factors (could even just be stress). Se is also not just situational awareness but also being primarily engaged with the world around you, among other things- if you are an introvert lead (be it Si or Fi), you would not be. Careful- to judge how much Se you have based off one aspect of it is like saying that you're not an introvert because you have friends and try be aware of social dynamics.
Also, if you work artistic details very well, that also lends to Se. It means that your 'situational awareness' is selective, which is normal. Put an IS-J who hates fashion in a fashion show and ask them what they think of the dresses. You probably wouldn't be surprised that they don't remember.
I had a very specific thing in mind when I was saying that but I am not sure if I can recreate. I think a more accurate representation would be "what COULD I do next" or "what SHOULD I do next". One part of it is mentally preparing for tasks I need to do by playing them out in my mind (not something I do too often) or I am thinking about all the plans I have with the things I am passionate about (especially when I am motivated and more healthy - 3 integration says hello). I have a goal in mind, at times I get a sudden strike of motivation out of nowhere, and I feel like I have to act on it. It's like I am running on inspiration. This is the only way I can keep working without outside pressure or deadlines. For example: I recently hit a point where I was extremely frustrated with my success as a content creator (I still am, it's really bad for my self esteem, especially seeing friends of mine getting alot of attention for doing similar content) and all of the sudden I was like "I will change everything about it by working hard" so I went into workaholic mode, started 20 changes / projects at the same time and my thoughts were all about the next change, the next reaction, imagining the impact it will have longterm etc etc. Often I think about this "hobby" (it feels more like a second job at this point) even if I am doing my job as a teacher, which can be very annoying. I would prefer to do one single thing all day, everyday, until I get tired and burned out of that thing and want to move on again.
Could be -P- they can be whimsical, or could be related to why you have this cyclical burnout- I hesitate to say for certain because to label it as P is to say that this is just how things work and is a form of 'normal' instead of digging deeper and fixing what might be wrong- mislabelling it can be a bit dangerous here. This isn't just any ordinary trait here, it seems like something you have a hard time controlling. For what it's worth, it scans less as whimsical P and more that you may be under stress- the indicators for me is that you
don't want to be this way but seem to cannot help but ending up doing it anyway.
It's not a whimsical choice, it's not fun, it's not your 'ideal you', and it's mentally and emotionally hurtful (harmful, even). Again, typology isn't pathology. To say it is is to imply that certain types are innately 'unhealthy' or dysfunctional, which, they are not. Don't get tunnel-visioned into thinking about what type this might be and focus instead on how to fix it- typology can be an unhealthy focus for people trying to figure out what's wrong with them- I'm not saying that's what you're doing, but especially if you aren't yet, don't fall into that trap. Even healthy, happy Ps don't do this, aren't like this.
If I am working I usually start with brainstorming, having a general idea of what I will do. Depending on whether it is something complex or just a "I will record a song" I will either outline a structure on paper or just start with it. Depending on what I do this can be where the issues can already start. I think one big issue that I have is for example planning lessons for my classes. I'm pretty fast to come up with ideas - but even faster and turning them down. I instantly imagine the lesson playing out, and can see "okay, this and this will go wrong" "this is not applicable to reality" "this doesn't make any sense" "my students will react like this and that" "the people who will evaluate my lessons will critisize xy" but I never know how to change it. So I come up with more ideas, throw them away, come up with another one, throw it away - and it continues. If I find pieces that I feel like could lead somewhere I keep them and try to build a lesson that way. But it's really hard to come up with a concept for a lesson. When I started teaching, it took me, no joke, AT LEAST 3 hours to come up with someone proper. Actually making it work, preparing the material, the powerpoint and planning the details is very easy for me on the other hand. Because I already got rid of the ideas where I thought I am not able to execute on them I end up doing things I am pretty sure I can handle. And especially if I did something similar before it's only a matter of applying known concepts to a new situation - which is, again, fairly easy to me. I think this is why I also like my hobby very much. It's alot about jumping right in and just doing, without the long planning process that makes me not wanna do the thing in the first place. I am not sure if this is what you were looking for when you asked but might still be very insightful for you.
This does sound -J- due to the preference of having a 'working standardised system' which is well, quite Je in general (Te, Fe). The problem you have is in the system-building, but even E-TJs don't always come up with a system right in the blink of an eye, on the spot. The fact that you keep sifting through it, discarding ideas, and trying to build what you can with what works sounds Pi-Je (Ni/Si + Te/Fe)- especially with you realising that it's not applicable to reality, or being cognisant of how your students will react- again, extraverted judgment- Te/Fe, specifically Fe- it focuses a lot on a system of people, whereas Fi/Te can be a bit unwittingly tone deaf, with Te forgetting to consider people as being a part of the system if anything (ah, their infamous lack of empathy) while it comes naturally to you, if not being one of the main focus, if not being the
main focus. There is so much Je + F that comes up so naturally, I cannot see you as Fi-dom.
"When I started teaching, it took me, no joke, AT LEAST 3 hours to come up with someone proper." - are you kidding me? (And I assume you mean
something, not someone)
Are you saying this is slow in your industry/your style of teaching? Teachers can spend hours poring through subject matters, books, and constructing a curriculum- especially if they're freestyling (for eg, in an institution, or with private tutors). I've taught before and I and the other teachers can spend hours together discussing our students and cobbling together something for them. You did this ALONE? In THREE HOURS?
"And especially if I did something similar before it's only a matter of applying known concepts to a new situation - which is, again, fairly easy to me."
You just defined Si. I gotta tell you, this is
hard for me. It's difficult to explain to me how, but this is one of the things I find most difficult to do. Is why I am so glad for my Si-dom friends, they do this so easily
that I don't have to do it myself that I can focus on other things instead. My brain seems to do literally everything except for applying known/past concepts to a new situation. It can be nerve-wracking to people because it's new, but it's my strength and I manage. Your strength on the other hand, lies in these 'known concepts'. You really just defined Si. The fact it 'comes easily' to you just seals it for me- you have higher Si.
No wonder you are nitpicky when system-building. Once you build it right you can access it and use it again easily. That's
classic Si + J, or IS-J. Putting this into context, the fact you take a lot of time and have difficulty creating a new system at first makes sense and doesn't detract from J at all. It's still very J.
I think I will just do a list for this one:
- I don't trust my own brain and unless I get the confirmation from someone that I am on the right path or someone tells me the answer to some degree, I will always doubt myself
Again, Je cognition (Te, Fe) - 'extraverted' judgement- extraverted in the sense that you value and are proficient, and
prefer judging with/using external information.
- Security is REALLY important to me. I would never do something where there is a chance that it might cause me harm in any way. Having a solid ground for the future (a place to live, enough money, stable job) are very important to me and makes me feel more at ease
I'd put this more as sp-dom than any MBTI. To tie this to MBTI is to ask 'how'- do you do it in an N way, S way, J way P way- do you judge its effectiveness using Je (Te, Fe) or Ji (Ti, Fi), etc. Already covered this much above- you seem to use S to do this.
- I can really easily see what could go wrong about any situation, even if it's not on my mind constantly. It's not always me being afraid though, it's just a "why should I do it in the first place if it has a chance to go wrong / fail?"
Enneagram-wise, head triad influence. Not enough to tell conclusively 5, 6, or 7, but combine with everything else (attachment tendencies, no 5 traits, no 7 traits) and yes, this is 6. Your 9 and 3 does still seem higher- 6 seems to be employed in addition to 9, not as the 'main goal', if that makes sense. MBTI-wise, could be tied to the 'procedural' way Js assess things- they want to list and draft things out so things can go smoothly, so naturally they'd want to be watchful and on the lookout for anything that may sabotage it.
Not that Ps don't do this, but with Js it tends to just be a part of their cognition- which it seems to be, with you saying it happens easily, even if it's not on your mind constantly. For people for whom this isn't natural- some of the more chaotic Ps, perhaps- they can learn this, but it tends to be a very manual thing they have to manually invoke. For it to happen easily, even passively- it's a sign it's a part of your natural cognition.
- There is this very deep deep seated feeling of wanting to be warmy protected. Someone who can keep me away from the unpredictable life, where I can fall back to, where I don't need to be afraid any longer. This is something I searched for in the few crushes that I had in the past too. I remember thinking "they can protect me, they can save me".
- I am terrified of moving out because it would mean having to deal with lifes ups and downs all alone and I don't know if I am able to handle the world (and I am 26, I am not a teen anymore)
I think this description is hitting the nail on the head 100% and I wasn't able to describe it better:
"As Naranjo clarifies, "not trusting themselves enough, they feel alone and incapable without outside support." Self-Preservation Sixes want to feel the embrace of the family, to be in a warm, protected place where there are no enemies. They search for an "idealized other" for protection, and they can have issues that look like separation anxiety. Like a child who needs to hold on to the mother, these Sixes don't feel confident in defending their own self-interests and survival."
MBTI-wise- nah, this one is just human preference. But yes, Enneagram wise, the 'I don't know if I am able to handle the world on my own' tends to be an indicator of withdrawn triad (4, 5, or 9)- they tend to feel incompetent against the world, and attachment influence (3, 6, 9) tends to also have that feeling that they 'can't do it alone', that they're too small for it, that they need support. Withdrawn + Attachment = 9, backed by 3, backed by 6. Your primary motivations are still overall mostly 9.
Having some ways to look at life, explaining life through overarching concepts that you were coming up with. While I have opinions and insights obviously, I don't really feel like I spend my time coming to some ultimate truth or making sense of reality / finding some underlying principle. I just go on with my life and come to conclusions that are usually not verbalized and I don't feel like talking about. Also it's probably things that most people already know, well-known concepts that most people realize exist. I don't come up with anything original in my opinion that would be worth writing a book about. So by that definition: no, I don't need anyone who would listen to my insights, because saying "relationships need communication or they will fail" is not an insight, it's an observation and was also backed up by research probably.
I will give it a thought!
Bolded- I would say that this is a strong strike against N and Ni both, but especially Ni. Ni's cognition tends to be about finding underlying principles, connections, concepts at its core- the Ni individual may focus on different topics (some may want to understand the underlying concepts of how science works, some do it in psychology, some in religion, etc) but it's all about the knee-jerk, 'finding underlying concepts'. This doesn't mean they
will get
accurate insight- they may go wack-crazy and delve into weird, esoteric theories that don't make sense, but it's still telling of their cognition and the type of information they engage in. I do this naturally and it's not manual at all, it just happens. It's not even about my liking or not liking it, it's just how my brain works, the same way your eyes just see- you don't
want it to you don't
will it to, it just
does, it just
is. I don't know how to
not do it.
The rest is universal gut feelings, as well as 'observation backed up by research'. Si tends to be very good at this- the kind of 'underlying principles' they are good at. Finding tried and true principles that work. They can be obvious, yes, but they are also reliable, concrete, realistic- a part of their strength, and pairs well with your being alert to how things can go wrong. Don't shortchange yourself- it can still be regarded as insight, it can still be insightful, it's just not MBTI-Ni. That being said, I am more certain now of ISFJ for you.
